Sleep with other women

A 24 year old mother-of-two, has told her fiance to sleep with other women. This is coming after ten years together as the thought of s*x with him 'creeps her out' - but he refuses to leave her side

Amy Ford from Poole, has two young boys with her fiancé James and the couple have been together for 10 years but Amy no longer wants s*x but despite telling James he's free to sleep
around, he's vowed to stand by her. She also believes other women are facing the same problem 

 Since becoming a mother to Marley and Harvey in May 2014, Amy has told James, 25, that she can no longer bear the thought of s*x - or anything se*ual - with him.

Amy says that a catalogue of health problems linked to a difficult pregnancy - and the demands of being a busy mum - have put her off s*x entirely

In fact, Amy is so repulsed by the idea of s*x, she has told James that he is free to sleep around - although James has insists he loves her and will never stray.

'James is my best friend and I don't want to upset him. I know that a lack of s*x can lead to relationships breaking up, so I've told him that if he wants to go with another woman, he can. I don't want him to end up resenting me.

'Of course, I'm still se*ually attracted to him and I still have those feelings towards him, but I don't want to be intimate with him because I know where it will lead.

'It's embarrassing for me, as a young woman, to say I am no longer interested in the idea of sexual relations with my partner. Even the thought of being touched creeps me out.'

'It has been difficult to face this,' Amy confessed. 'But I know I am not alone in this, and despite me trying to hide this big secret - which actually affects many other young mums - I wanted to speak out.'

'James and I have been together for 10 years and we have always had a very healthy se*ual drive, and even though my other half's libido is still unchanged, I fear mine is forever lost.'

Amy, who says the pair used to have s*x up to six times a day, said: 'The thought of being creeped out by him really frustrates me and I'm always feeling guilty whenever he tries to be romantic, hinting that we should have s*x.

'When I turn him down he seems to think I'm playing silly games or just being unfair, but the real fact of the matter is that I not only feel exhausted, like many young mums, but I also suffer from dyspareunia as well as other physical conditions since having my twins.'

Amy says that suffering from dyspareunia - pain during intercourse due to medical or psychological causes - is just the first of many physical conditions that have contributed towards her repulsion at the idea of s*x. 

She also has diastasis recti - where, due to pregnancy, the abdomen muscles have separated much farther than normal, creating a bulge where the stomach is - but also depression and fibromyalgia, a rheumatic condition causing stiffness and soreness of the muscles.

Amy explained: 'With the ongoing exhaustion of each day - looking after my children, dogs, and the never-ending housework - I am no longer interested in getting romantic or playful with the other half.

'As you can imagine, s*x is the last of my worries, although my daily worries are about not being able to please my partner, or at least worrying if he thinks I've gone off him. 

'Now I'm scared that James will see this is how his life will be with me, and later want something more than living a s*xless life together.

'Even though I trust James and know he'll never cheat on me, I feel like one day he will resent me for being this way.'

'Throughout my pregnancy, I was constantly in pain with the position of the babies,' she said. 'Slowly I became distant from James romantically, but we still had the occasional s*xual interaction.

'It wasn't until I suffered a obstetrical haemorrhage, having my twins at 35 weeks, that I started to realise my s*x life had died.'

Amy recalled: 'I was disgusted with my body, I felt exhausted, I was in constant pain and the thought of being touched or having s*x made me upset. 

The 24-year-old says that looking after the boys leaves her exhausted and not wanting to s*x

'Even though James was able to help with the twins because they were bottle-fed, they were in and out of hospital with respiratory problems, and having one unwell soon set off the other one like a chain reaction.

'I struggled at night as well as the day so, I still didn't want to get intimate with him even on the best of days.'

Amy was later diagnosed with postnatal depression, which she says has been exacerbated by the diastasis recti and fibromyalgia.