I have been in the relationship for 5 years hoping it would lead to the alter. I have built a house for him in his country home back in the village. His parents country home have also been given a face-lift courtesy of my money. I send N50,000 to his parents every month for their upkeep.
His younger sister is in UNILAG studying Law and I am her sole sponsor. He lives in my house, drives my cars and I pay his bills. I have tried severally to fix him up in about 3 multinational companies but each time he resigned after a few months. A few weeks ago I gave him N5m for a building project in the city and he came back and told me he had been duped by a supposed supplier whom he had paid to supply chippings and we went to report to the police. He stays home all day eating and partying with friends while I am away at work. Recently I reminded him of the promises he made to marry me and he moved out of my house saying he is not yet ready for marriage. I pleaded with him to return to the house but he refused saying he is done with every relationship with me only for me to see him in a boutique shopping with a lady whom I later identified as his longtime girlfriend whom he had already finished paying her dowry and will be wedding in 2 weeks.
On confirming this, I ran straight to his parents only to discover that they were preparing for the forthcoming wedding. His father treated me like one intruder and asked what my business was on their compound. I tried with great effort to leave without creating a scene. As I drove out of the compound, a neighbor of theirs ran to me and explained that he had been using my money to fund the lady’s education in London and that they have made plans to relocate immediately after the wedding. The neighbor also informed me that the youths in the village have been mobilized to fight against any opposition I may advance against the wedding and I thanked the neighbor, and took his number and also gave him some money for his effort.
As I drove back to the city, the thought of getting violent against them came to my mind but a thought also came to me, “Let Go” and it continued to echo in my head. At a point I stopped my car and cried deeply. When I got home I took some sedatives that sent me to sleep for some hours. The next day I got a call from the head office of the firm I work for that I must leave for a six-month training in Germany in two days, so I prepared and left for Germany. The healing process was faster with the change of environment. While a was in Germany, I got a mail from the father of my ex that they need me to help facilitate the release of their son from Police detention, that the lady he intended to marry had taken all he had and sold of the house he had built somewhere in the city while he was living in my house, that the new owners had ordered him to vacate the building and that this have led to his arrest and detention. I called a friend and the friend facilitated his release. I received another mail from his father saying that his son still wants to move in with me and that if I agreed to forgive his son, our wedding will hold in few weeks. I did not reply the mail and I did not consider his proposal. At about 6pm same day, I received a call from the Chief executive Officer of my firm that he would like to see me privately the next day. When I went to see the CEO, I was shocked at what he told me. He proposed to me and explained to me that he is aware of the happenings in my love life that he has been talking to one of my friends in Nigeria. I was surprised! He told me he was not in a hurry but that he needed to see my parents because he had waited for so long to tell me how he felt. After six months, the CEO and I were married. He takes me everywhere he went even with our children. He treats me like a queen.
